You can’t be substandard while expecting a standard

Let’s cut straight to it.

Some women are out here fully convinced—deep in their hearts—that they’re going to marry a billionaire. And don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with aiming high. Dream big, manifest love, shoot for the stars. But here’s where it gets ridiculous: you can’t be doing the bare minimum and expect the maximum in return. Life just doesn’t work that way.

The Audacity Without the Effort

It’s wild how some women want a man with money, class, discipline, vision, and goals… while they bring absolutely nothing to the table but vibes and maybe a pretty face. Sis, you want a billionaire but you don’t read, don’t grow, don’t hustle, and don’t even work on your mindset. How are you going to match the level of the man you claim you want?

Broke-Shaming Is Getting Old

Let’s talk about broke-shaming. Some of y’all drag men for not being able to afford luxury dates, trips, or designer gifts—but the truth is, you can’t afford those things either. You just expect someone else to do it for you. You’re laughing at a man’s pocket while you’re still depending on your monthly data bonus or asking for transport money. That’s not cute—it’s hypocritical.

High Standards Should Start With You

Want a high-value man? Be a high-value woman. That doesn’t mean you have to be rich or perfect—it means you’re constantly evolving. You take care of yourself, you work on your goals, you have something going for you. You don’t just sit around waiting for a man to upgrade your life—you’re already upgrading it on your own.

Relationships Aren’t Rescue Missions

Here’s a truth a lot of people don’t want to hear: a man isn’t coming to save you. Especially not a successful one. Men with money, vision, and value are not looking for a project—they’re looking for a partner. If your whole identity is based on what a man can do for you, then you’re setting yourself up to be replaced the second he finds someone who offers more than just expectations.

Final Thoughts

This isn’t about bashing women—it’s about calling out a mindset that holds people back. Wanting the best is great. But ask yourself: am I becoming my best too? Because at the end of the day, you attract what you reflect. And if all you bring is demands, don’t be shocked when you keep ending up with disappointment.